Never say mean words. I won’t hurt the people I love. I won’t make life more difficult, but instead will cause days to be fuller, brighter, and happier.
Do 60% of the work. Others shouldn’t feel pressured to shoulder more of the responsibilities and stress. The best way to make her feel my appreciation is by showing through action.
I don’t know everything. I can be wrong, jealous, short-sighted, quick to anger, proud. That is a part of being human. Others can be like this too. Acknowledge it, and minimize it. Be aware that it happens and strive to reduce the frequency, duration, and severity when it does.
Everyone is an independent person, who grace me with their time and company. In all the world, they are unique. When others give e their time, I am lucky and loved.
Be present. When we are together, I will give my attention. Not being engaged is disrespectful to their time and person.
Testing people is a damaging behavior. Making competitions to see who is right or better only makes us antagonistic.
Arguing should be %70 listening.
When angry, I should stop and count to ten. After counting, I will ask myself “why are you mad, and how will being mad help me solve the situation?”
There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs is not one of them.
Never cancel dinner plans via text.
Don’t knock it ’til you try it.
If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.
Always use “we” when referring to your home team or your government.
When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
DON’T underestimate free throws in a game of HORSE.
Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
Don’t dumb it down.
You only get one chance to notice a new haircut.
If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.
Never park in front of a bar.
Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.
Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first girlfriend.
Hold your heroes to a high standard.
A suntan is earned, not bought.
Never lie to your doctor.
All guns are loaded.
Don’t mention sunburns. They know.
The best way to show thanks is to wear it. Even if it’s only once.
Take a vacation from your cell phone, internet, and TV once a year.
Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good it is.
A handshake beats an autograph.
Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.
If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.
If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
Never get your haircut the day of a special event.
Be mindful of what comes between you and the earth. Always buy good shoes, tires, and sheets.
Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.
When you’re with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.
Eat lunch with the new kids.
When traveling, keep your wits about you.
It’s never too late for an apology.
Don’t pose with booze.
If you have right of way, TAKE IT.
You don’t get to choose your own nickname.
When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
Never push someone off a dock.
Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she is pregnant.
It’s not enough to be proud of your ancestry, live up to it.
Don’t make a scene.
When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.
Know when to ignore the camera.
Invest in great luggage.
Make time for your mom on your birthday. It’s her special day too.
When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.
Sympathy is a crutch, never fake a limp.
Give credit. Take blame.
Suck it up every now and again.
Never be the last one in the pool
Address everyone that carries a firearm professionally.
Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
If you’ve made your point, stop talking.
Admit it when you’re wrong.
If you offer to help don’t’ quit until the job is done.
Look people in the eye when you thank them.
Thank the bus driver.
Never answer the phone at the dinner table.
Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
Know at least one good joke.
Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s son.
Know how to cook one good meal.
Learn to drive a stick shift.
Be cool to younger kids. Reputations are built over a lifetime.
It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.
Dance with your mother/father.
Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.
Always thank the host.
If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
Know the size of your partner’s clothes.
There is nothing wrong with a plain t-shirt.
Be a good listener. Don’t just take your turn to talk.
Keep your word.
Always sit in the front. You’ll stand out immediately. Come grade time it might come in handy.
Carry your mother’s bags. She carried you for 9 months.
Be patient with airport security. They are just doing their job.
Don’t be the talker in a movie.
The opposite sex likes people who shower.
You are what you do. Not what you say.
Learn to change a tire.
Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.
An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.
You won’t always be the strongest or fastest. But you can be the toughest.
Never call someone before 9 AM and after 9 PM.
Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.
Make the little things count.
There is a fine line between looking sultry and slutty. Find it.
You’re never too old to need your mom.
Know the words to your national anthem.
Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.
Smile at strangers.
Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.
If you HAVE to fight, punch first and punch hard.
When you see an unfamiliar word or concept learn it that time. You wouldn’t read an email a dozen times, so you shouldn’t repeat confusion.
Context is everything – Don’t learn the fact, but the context. Context gives meaning to the fact.
Learn until you can explain
Own a room: I don’t warm a seat but rather take charge of a conversation and represent such a deep level of knowledge that I gain respect for what I say and earn a good reputation. My focus stays on accountable results and bring resolution and closure together.
Expert: I am sought after to be in meetings, for instance, so that good decisions can be made.
Results-focused: I focus on getting great results and don’t entwine my ego to particular solutions. I don’t get defensive if my ideas are revealed to have flaws but rather delight in being able to move to a better solution.
Leadership: I am a pro-active leader that convinces team members of the future direction and even helps to implement it. Others complain about the way things should be. I actually bring it about.
Solutions, not problems: I don’t complain about problems on the team but rather implement and drive solutions.
Makes other great: The team benefits and grows from my contributions. I answer questions from the team, from support, from customers. I know what the team delivers backwards and forwards. I am a good mentor.
Influence when I can, scare when I must: I have fundamental skills in influencing people, but if I need to flip into junk-yard dog mode, I can. I don’t give up and walk away but rather fight when I need to fight, escalating only when needed and with lots of justification.
I make my boss great: If the team and my boss are succeeding because of me, of course I’ll be succeeding too.
I’m not doing it for the promotion: When I’m out for a promotion, don’t do work specifically chose to get the promotion. This is like meeting the Buddha on the road. If I come up with a pretty plan to justify your promotion, I’ve already lost it. Such plotting is obvious and actually detrimental to my career. If, however, I’ve determined what it takes to have a successful career in my pursuits and have started what I need to start and stopped what you need to stop, then I’m on the right path.